Very cool graphic recording of Pressure Cooker Confidence from last week’s Leadership Summit at Harrison Hot Springs.
The Reluctant Entrepreneur
Where have you all been the last 8 months? I’ve been blogging and no one answers! Oh wait. I haven’t been blogging. What have I been doing then? So busy!
Above is a video of a part of a talk I did for the UBC Sauder School of Business for a bunch of entrepreneurial high school students. What a great group!
I titled the talk “The Reluctant Entrepreneur” because after I read the email asking me to keynote, I pushed back in my chair and wondered: “Why me?” I mean “What did I have to say about being an entrepreneur?”
As I stared out my window at Vancouver’s beautiful mountains, I realized then that I have never worked full time as a career for anyone… except myself. Another way to look at it is that no one in the whole world has been willing to hire me full time… besides myself! And so, without meaning to, I had lived most of my life as an entrepreneur!
The truth is, I never set out to be an entrepreneur… in fact I only learned to spell that word correctly after I accepted the gig (like many entrepreneurs I have some isseus wtih dyslexai. (auto correct makes it difficult to purposely misspell wrods :)
I wasn’t driven to be an entrepreneur; but I am driven to do what I want to do, when I want, in the way that I want. Which, it turns out, is one of the main characteristics of entrepreneurs! Also they tend to be stubborn.
That clinches it. I guess I’m an entrepreneur!
This clip talks about how to be the biggest, best version of yourself you can be. Which is one of my main topics in Pressure Cooker Confidence or in my newest talk: “The Reluctant Entrepreneur.”
Pressure Cooker Confidence isn’t all about winning big in the interview room, the sales presentation, or the big speech. It’s also about being the biggest, best version of you that you can be in every moment.
One of the most common questions that clients and friends alike come to me with is how to make an impact and engage effectively in a networking situation, or when meeting and interacting with new people.
Here are 3 incredibly simple tips for increased engagement in any situation:
- Smile: Can’t get much easier than that! Just smile. And then smile some more. Make your ‘at rest’ facial position a slight smile and broaden it as you approach or look at anyone. People remember you not for what you said or did, but for how you made them feel. So smile and make some people feel happier!
- Eye contact: Look squarely at people you are introduced to. Look at their face. Look into their eyes. Look at people while you are talking. Include all the people standing around you by making eye contact with each of them, repeatedly. Nod along while you are listening and watching others.
Numerous studies have shown that people who make higher-levels of eye contact with others are perceived as being not only more confident and powerful, but also more warm and personable as well.
- It’s not all about you! Ask your new connections leading questions about their background, family life, martial status, favorite sports etc… The best questions are the ones where you actually care about the answer, so that you are drawn into the conversation with them.
Presto magic: increased engagement!
The novelist Patricia Highsmith worked in bed surrounded by cigarettes, an ashtray, matches, a mug of coffee, a doughnut and a cup full of sugar.
There is one secret that this fascinating article exposes for creatives: consistent discipline. For example, working at the same time every day, or taking a walk or bath or shower or drinking before, during or after work… always. Figure out how you like to create or need to create and then do it every day.
Since these are highly productive creatives, I wonder if the unifying flaw of unproductive creatives is… to not consistently follow a disciplined schedule of work each day. Whether it’s 30 minutes (Gertrude Stein) or 5 hours (Charles Dickens) of creating/writing per day, these productive geniuses followed their patterns consistently.
And that is what most creatives want to hear least: that consistent discipline leading to structure is one of the things that all productive creatives create for themselves.
I have been working on structure and consistent discipline for 24 months now and can agree that they are the foundation upon which success is built.
Wouldn’t it be sweeter to find out these creative geniuses just partied all the time and never had to be consistent about anything else?
What creative discipline do you follow?
Roger’s Rules: Fake it ‘till you make it (Part 2)
Roger’s Rules: Fake it till you make it (Part 1)
Check out this clip from a recent workshop, where I explain how ‘owning’ the room, your process, and your mind creates powerfully potent presentations!
I wanted to let you know about exciting some upcoming events that I will be part of this month, and also let you know what I’ve been up to in the last little while.
- On June 13th Tourism Vancouver is holding it’s 110th Annual General Meeting at The Vancouver Playhouse. Mayor Gregor Roberston will present the ambitious and exciting Tourism Master Plan and I will be providing an interruption of sorts on stage (it’s a surprise!) Register here
- On June 15th The Canadian Association of Professional Speakers is hosting a Book Boot Camp featuring international ghostwriter Les Kletke at the Granville Island Hotel. This event is open to everyone! Register here
- On June 20th The MPI BC Chapter is holding it’s annual June Gala at the beautiful new Loungeworks showroom. We are holding a silent auction and there will be awards and a wine draw. I will be your host for the evening, so come down and support your local meetings professionals. Register here.
Now that we’ve got that covered, let’s talk about where I’ve been!
I’ve had the immense pleasure of working on some amazing events in the last couple of months, including emceeing two awards night galas for Walmart, and an incentive for American Express.
My company Actors Unlimited Entertainment has also been hard at work as Vancouver’s trusted entertainment solution providing everything from Teambuilding to Recognition, Edu-tainment to Purely Fun, Themed Events to Tours, and Game Shows to Galas. Check out our latest Best Ideas for Busy Planners here (including an awesomely fun version of Family Feud!)
Finally, I attended an Ultimate Victoria FAM trip with MPI and guest-blogged my amazing experience here.
I think that just about covers everything! I’ll be back with Roger’s Rules soon, so stay tuned!